I feel a bit strange when i talk about this topic. It looks like: you dont have to say, parent’s love is always uncondition. Parent always gives you the best.
Well, i agree and disagree. As all people on the Earth knows that parent always want the give the best to us, give us the things which they didnt have it. Time, money, love. As my dad told me, all his life, he wants to see his childrend smiling and being happy.
But, i still disagree about it. Who would know about what is the best for you? Does your parent always give you the thing you need most? Have you ever been hurt because of them?
I have seen many people talking about their parent’s expectation. When parent couldnt be a doctor, they want their kids become doctor. Do their kids want it? When parent didnot have much education, they turn their dreams into their kids, want them become what they dreamed. Have u ever experienced about comparision? When you have to hear about how the kids next door study, how your sister/ brother behave, how the rest of people on Earth become, and you always behide them.
It’s a bit funny when we talk about this topic, I am imaging my past and look at my parent at the moment. I remember one time, my parent had a fight about me. While my mom was blaming me about something, i was crying and kept saying “im sorry and its my fault”, i even didnt know what my fault was. It was hurt when i saw my parent fight because of me, that’s why i admitted it was my fault. When i was a child, my mom hit her kids, she was upset and angry almost every day. I didnot know why, perhaps her business didnot go well. Or maybe she was not happy about her family.
When my sister passed away, she started to compare me and my sister. She was hurt and brief. But i couldnt find any reason for doing this, comfort her, or wanted me become my sister? She didnot show her love to her kids, and now she was talking about her love with the one living. I was trying to advoid her as much as i can, i didnt want to hurt as well. And i didnt want to hurt her by my words. She had enough wounds.
I think in my country, people dont say love each other often. Children have this mistake too. They show their love in different ways. They hide their wounds because they dont want disappointed their parents. They tried harder even they didnot love what they are doing. They try to advoid a conversation with their parent because they dont want a fight. Even when they fight back, they do still love their parent. Before, every night i told myself: trying harder, become a good person so my mom can proud of me. Everytime i have a fight with her, i want her understand my opinions, and understand me. Acept me as a naugty daughter, not my sister.
There is always have a light in the dark. I believe, when one of parent turns dark, the other will be the light. If your dad isnot understand you, your mom will or at least she will protect you. Or when ur parent is the dark, you will be the light. In my case, i think my sister is the light. After the incident, my mom has changed so much. I dont expect her to become my dream mother, she has been better. She is less upset, listens to her kid opinions, talks to them more. Im glad who she is now because we can communicate, exchange ideas. She is still her, but she has been trying to become a better one.
From my experience, i still think parent’s love is positive and negative effects to their children. Both of parent and children hurt their loved one in one way or the other way. But we do love each other, we do want to give the best to each other. Its like the most challenge for the current parent generation when they are trying the best way to advoid it. it seems everyone is trying to become the light and to
shut the dark up.